Or a lesson in Savoir vivre.
As an introduction, I’d like to say: I love when people comment on my posts. It makes me feel read, gives me the feeling that I am not only writing to myself, it is my minute of fame, it boosts my ego… You can call me childish, self centred, insecure… Still I love comments. It also gives me more occasion to discover new blogs, new horizons. So when I get a comment it is always a very positive experience. And by the way, thank you Yarny Days and Fides Floris for passing by :-) Having said this, I try as much as I can to reply to the messages even if it is sometimes very late.
And of course, when I visit other bloggers and something catch my eyes, I leave a comment. It is not always a very original message, I try to avoid the ‘wow’-type of comment, try to give positive feed-back, and make sure that my messages are always friendly. I do this because I know that many readers, just read, sometimes copy, but very rarely take the time to write. I never think ‘why should I comment?’ because I know the work bloggers put to bring us nice craft project, nice pictures, valuable information.
Now to the real purpose of this post. There are a couple of blogs that I really, really love. I follow them, visit them every day, looking forward to new posts, getting to know (or at least I think) the writer, feeling that with every new post we are getting closer, we are getting friends. Have I already used the word childish? This is what I am: how can I become friend with someone behind a blog, with no chance to meet?
In the past, I have left comments for my preferred bloggers, put link to their blogs on mine, hope to show my appreciation. A few of days, I comment on a blog I have been following for almost two years. As I was typing, I had the feeling that I might be a little bit to familiar, that my words might be taken the wrong way; but I thought that my ‘friend’ would not mind and would understand the humour. What a surprise, the next day my message had been deleted. I felt so ashamed of having brought my ‘friend’ embarrassment. What shall I do? Send her a message and tell her how sorry I feel? I think I’ll do this.
In the meantime, I have a message to all the bloggers out there:
Please, please reply to our comments, acknowledge that you have read us, acknowledge that you are happy to have comments. I know that some of you receive hundreds of comments, but honestly isn’t it what you/we were looking for when you start blogging, to have an audience? I am blogging not only for the sake of having my journal recorded and feel that other bloggers do the same; if I wanted to write my journal and keep it for myself, I would surely make my blog private, but since I am ‘public’, I am clearly seeking readers, and comments. I might not love all the comments (I doubt it though), but unless they really offensive, I will accept them as they come.